Part of being a parent is having the time and ability to love and connect as individual grown-ups (Husband and wife/Lovers/Friends in some cases). As parents, it’s always a balance. As parents traveling abroad with kids, this has proven even more so to require more intentional work and planning.
We take the time out to connect and love each other as husband and wife. As most will agree, mom and dad alone time is important for our growth and our kids’ support and growth. The kids understand this, and there is no confusion.
The support and strength we provide each other manifests through our relationship and show the kids the morals and values we wish to impart to them. It’s all part of the journey of parenting, and we take it head-on.
We were each raised in a particular way, and as parents, we needed to work together to see what would work best for our family. A part of this is asking: how can we blend pieces of our upbringing to best benefit our children as they grow up and prepare for life?
As a couple, we share similar beliefs about how to parent and what approaches to take. Coming from the same Jamaican culture largely contributed to how we approached raising our children.
Although there were many similarities, those alone did not create our entire parenting technique. Apart from the usual question of “what are we doing?!” when we became brand new parents with our oldest, one of the biggest questions we had was “what don’t we know?” This query made us realize we had to UNLEARN a fair amount of what we were taught, whether culturally or personally, and reinvent our parenting methods!
Over the years, we have intended to expand our understanding of parenting, explicitly parenting while traveling with kids of all ages. Our travels have provided the ultimate challenge and ultimate lesson for us because it created a new level of clarity in connecting with our kids as individuals and as parents and empowering our decision-making skills on all levels.
“OUR CHILDREN PAY A HEAVY PRICE WHEN WE LACK CONSCIOUSNESS. OVERINDULGED, OVER-MEDICATED, AND OVER-LABELED, MANY OF THEM ARE UNHAPPY. THIS IS BECAUSE , COMING FROM UNCONSCIOUSNESS OURSELVES, WE BEQUEATH TO THEM OUR OWN UNRESOLVED NEEDS, UNMET EXPECTATIONS, AND FRUSTRATED DREAMS.
DESPITE OUR BEST INTENTIONS, WE ENSLAVE THEM TO THE EMOTIONAL INHERITANCE WE RECEIVED FROM OUR PARENTS, BINDING THEM TO THE DEBILITATING LEGACY OF ANCESTORS PAST. THE NATURE OF UNCONSCIOUSNESS IS SUCH THAT, UNTIL IT’S METABOLIZED, IT WILL SEEP THROUGH GENERATION AFTER GENERATION.
ONLY THROUGH AWARENESS CAN THE CYCLE OF PAIN THAT SWIRLS IN FAMILIES END.”
on a Tree
we grow in different directions yet
our roots remain as one.