Part of being a parent is having the time and ability to love and connect as individual grown-ups (husband and wife, lovers, and friends in some cases). As parents, it’s always a balance. As parents traveling abroad with kids, maintaining that balance requires even more intentional work and planning.
We take the time to connect and love each other as husband and wife. As most will agree, mom and dad alone time is important for both the growth of the adults and the children. The kids understand this, and there is no confusion.
The support and strength we provide each other manifest through our relationship and show the kids the morals and values we wish to impart to them. It’s all part of the journey of parenting, and we take it head-on.
We were each raised in a particular way, and, as parents, we needed to work together to see what would work best for our family. Part of this is asking: How can we blend some pieces of our upbringing to best benefit our children as they grow up and prepare for life?
As a couple, we share similar beliefs about how to parent and which approaches to take. Coming from the same Jamaican culture largely contributed to how we raise our children.
But although there are similarities with how we were raised, those learnings alone did not create our entire parenting technique. Apart from the usual question of “What are we doing?!” when we became brand-new parents with our oldest, one of the biggest questions we had to ask ourselves was, “What don’t we know?” This query made us realize we had to UNLEARN a fair amount of what we were taught, whether culturally or personally, and reinvent our parenting methods!
Over the years, we have intended to expand our understanding of parenting, explicitly parenting while traveling with kids of all ages. Traveling has provided the ultimate challenge and lesson for us because it created a new level of clarity in terms of connecting with our kids as individuals and parents, and empowering our decision-making skills on all levels.
“OUR CHILDREN PAY A HEAVY PRICE WHEN WE LACK CONSCIOUSNESS. OVERINDULGED, OVER-MEDICATED, AND OVER-LABELED, MANY OF THEM ARE UNHAPPY. THIS IS BECAUSE , COMING FROM UNCONSCIOUSNESS OURSELVES, WE BEQUEATH TO THEM OUR OWN UNRESOLVED NEEDS, UNMET EXPECTATIONS, AND FRUSTRATED DREAMS.
DESPITE OUR BEST INTENTIONS, WE ENSLAVE THEM TO THE EMOTIONAL INHERITANCE WE RECEIVED FROM OUR PARENTS, BINDING THEM TO THE DEBILITATING LEGACY OF ANCESTORS PAST. THE NATURE OF UNCONSCIOUSNESS IS SUCH THAT, UNTIL IT’S METABOLIZED, IT WILL SEEP THROUGH GENERATION AFTER GENERATION.
ONLY THROUGH AWARENESS CAN THE CYCLE OF PAIN THAT SWIRLS IN FAMILIES END.”
on a Tree
we grow in different directions yet
our roots remain as one.